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When a Parent Dies: Cleaning Out, After a Hoarder

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We’ve been discussing cleaning out the home of a loved one. Most people spend many, many years in one home and you’d be surprised how much STUFF can accumulate. Then, some people take this accumulation to a whole different level. You may be shocked and surprised to find out that your parent was a hoarder. If this is what you find,  your clean out will call for very different measures, than the last article. Death compounded with the devastation of dealing with a home of a hoarder feels like an impossible burden.  There is a grief cycle that happens, while managing the loss of a loved one, and you’ll get through all the stages, whether you want to … or not.

Grief Cycle, Losing a parent, clearing out a parent's home, Rolf Kramer, Real Estate Agent, Williamsburg, Virginia

First off, this isn’t an impossible situation. It can be dealt with and there is help. Here are some tips to help you know where to begin to start:

Secondly, don’t try to do this yourself; bring in a service that specializes in situations like this. Search for someone who specializes in hoarding, clean outs, or organizing. Some service providers will look at every piece of paper for you, bring a dumpster, donate anything appropriate and sell what is valuable – taking a cut of the sale. Other services just charge per project. Hire someone. These kinds of service providers have seen it all. Nothing daunts them and for you, it will take the trauma of your clean out and leave you with a clean slate to get ready to sell.

If you need some support for a hoarder cleanout, in Williamsburg, Virginia, I highly recommend Laura, of Williamsburg Estate Services. After seeing her in-laws struggle to help a dear relative downsize halfway across the country, Laura opened Williamsburg Estate Services with the goal to eliminate that stress for individuals in the Williamsburg area. By the way, Laura is one of the Liz Moore preferred vendors.

Finally, set your embarrassment aside and keep in mind that hoarding usually happens when someone has great loss and falls into a depressing clinging to things as a way of dealing with the grief. Here is a great video from the television show, “800-Hoarders.com

Laura, from Williamsburg Estate Services said, “We’ve seen it all and will clean up a hoarder’s home, with compassion for the homeowner and their family. We recommend calling before getting emotional and overwhelmed. It is our job and we are here to help.”

Finally, dear reader, don’t let this clean out cloud your memories of your parent. Focus on your parent’s most significant qualities, those that you will never forget. Consider that these qualities are your memories and the legacy left to you and your children. Their hoarding was a reaction to something that happened to them; it isn’t who they were. Please feel free to comment, below, or reach out to me, via email to discuss your situation.

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rolf kramer, real estate, Williamsburg, VARolf Kramer, REALTOR®, ABR, SRES, e-PRO 757-564-4455

Licensed in Virginia with Liz Moore and Associates, 5350 Discovery Park Blvd, Williamsburg, VA 23188

Williamsburg has become a Mecca for retirees over the past dozen years because of its history, charm, vacation amenities, proximity to major cities and airports, and affordable cost of living. Check out www.retiringinwilliamsburg.com for information about the Williamsburg community, lifestyles available, and search for homes for sale.

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Author: retiringinwilliamsburgrolfkramer

Licensed in Virginia with Liz Moore and Associates, 5350 Discovery Park Blvd, Williamsburg, VA 23188 Williamsburg has become a Mecca for retirees over the past dozen years because of its history, charm, vacation amenities, proximity to major cities and airports, and affordable cost of living. Check out www.retiringinwilliamsburg.com for information about the Williamsburg community, lifestyles available, and search for homes for sale.

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